This is me!!

I’m not doing this for you:

My name is Kenyona Rashana Candice Parlor. I’m a christian that believes in God, and the main root of it all is Love. I’m the girl that loves herself enough to never lower her standards for someone else. I believe in myself and push myself to make the impossible happen. I love myself because, I value who I am as a person. I have respect for myself and I carry myself with grace and as a young role model to other females. I’m my own person, and I have a personality customized to my fitting. I laugh, smile, cry, hurt and I can feel. My heart is huge and I use it to the extent of it’s full potential.
I don’t carry baggage into other relationships, but I have been through a lot to never forget the things that built my muscle. I’m a positive person and I find myself supporting others w/o the favor of asking for anything from anyone. I loved hard, and I love unconditionally. There’s been many mistakes that I’ve made in the past and some that’ll be made in the future. That’s part of being human.
I know that there’s someone that I want more than ever. I’m not afraid to make mistakes in front of him, but I am scared that he won’t accept what it is that I have to offer. Love does start at home, and for the fact that not only did I receive it from both parents and my siblings, I loved and will always love me, too. Sometimes I find myself getting 5 steps ahead of my brain, but that’s normal for someone with big dreams. There are times when I need to be brought back down to earth, because some things that I may see looks fogging. Everyday I’m working at a full time job of trying to better myself. I don’t mind trying to make things right with myself on behalf of someone that I love, but most of the things I do is for me.
I admit, I’m stubborn and I don’t want to ask for help when it’s needed. I only do it because I was raised by a single mother that gave me every hope in the world. She provided every christmas, she attended every school play, she put me through school, and she gave me something that I couldn’t have experienced any better with anyone else. I thank God for her LOVE because it was well needed, but at the same time I grew up.
Everyone is taught differently how to be independent. I was specifically taught that depending on others wouldn’t get me anywhere. Calling someone for help would be a waste of time, because I had to get what I wanted through any kind of way I could. I was late for an exam? Mama stopped taking me and made me walk, I got stranded in the middle of nowhere on the bus one day, and I was told to call mama because she’d come get me. She offered her help before hand, but when I was stranded she told me to find a way home in the rain. This is why I hesitate to ask for help, because of situations such as that.
I was always compared to other people’s children. How come Jasmine was better than Kenyona or Zavion was more intelligent than me? I learned to let go and love myself, alone after while. I never mastered love because I never found my significant other. I love me till death and I’ve learned self value. Could I stop worrying for a while? Yes! Is it okay to ask for help? Yes! Have I mastered self love? Yes! Have I mastered loving someone else? No, because I haven’t found him.
I love everybody and this is a fact! Actions do speak louder than words, but sometimes words can become the loudest actions. I’ve been thrown away, cheated on, talked about, misunderstood, brought down — but I never stopped loving each and every person that hurt me. My heart is too big to be told differently, and many people that has watched me on my knees crying and praying can say that this is true. God has made me and molded me into someone beautiful. I never had that “I don’t care” attitude, because no matter what I’ll always care. It would be nice to have someone save the hero sometimes, too.
I have no excuses or anything to hide. I’m human and there’s nothing to justify the reason as to why I couldn’t do things better. I’m starting today and this time I’ll learn to ask for help from those that really are my God-given friends. I’m Kenyona and this is me!!
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Getting laid or played?

 

 

I shared with a few of my friends where I stand, in the process of my new project (book). Le Promesse is something that will offer most or many readers an adventure. This is a book I’m writing for my significant other and I happened to use a few real friends from my knowing, and make them characters in the book.

Writing a book takes a lot of emotion and thoughts of a very experienced writer. Anybody can write but it takes much to reveal something so great to the world. I used five of my good friends to help relay the message, because I felt that they came very close to what I was looking for in someone that was mature enough to understand.

Whom I fall in love with, I guess that’s just more than my luck. My job is to make sure that ‘prince’ reads the book after we’re together. I’m very worried about how the fans would feel about the book, or if they’d like it. But more importantly I’m contemplating on what my future husband will think about this. I want to bring out all the best and worst features of myself.

The point is to make sure that not just my husband knows who I am, but that the fans get an idea also. I find it very creative that I’m willing to put myself on paper and give you the real me. I don’t feed people bullish*t, so all of this stuff will be real. This by chance and favor, just might be better than “Love&HipHop” and “The Notebook”. Why? Good thing you ask, because there’s nothing fiction about this book. What do you guys think?

Is it normal to outgrow the church you attended all your life?

It’s been about nineteen years, since I’ve been alive upon the face of the earth. First, I have to give God the honor and the glory! I thank Christ for dying on the cross for my sins, and for him being so understanding and loving. There are many things that God will always impart in you, and offer you that the church may not offer. God is always bigger than our problems, but there’s something that has been heavy on my heart for a few years now. Forgive me if I hurt feelings, but the truth must be spoken.

Our parents placed us in the church as kids, we attended every sunday and made sure we stayed for second service, also. I know some of you have that pet peeve, where you dislike when the pastor is just babbling and not saying something very interesting. One of my pet peeves, were when I’d hear the same old message for seven sundays straight. I didn’t hate it, but I thought I could be learning something new. I’m a firm believer in Christ, but I like to listen to a pastor that knows what he’s talking about.

Some churches have servants that takes, titles to their heads but I’m not with that at all. Personally, I have adjusted to how bishop T.D Jakes has been preaching. I love how his style of preaching has such a positive effect on me. It’s the fact that when he preaches, he uses the bible stories and gets his point across using it. That is something interesting to me, also for the fact that I can relate to what it is that I’m going through. It’s one thing to go to church and get a word, and not learn anything, but it’s also another thing to go to church and learn something that you can apply to your life.

 

 

 

A church that has to ask for 50 offerings in one sunday is ridiculously crazy. I only say this because there are two main offerings that belongs to God. There’s TITHES (that’s what we owe, 10%) and there’s the regular offering(determines how much you want to give). When a pastor preaches about something you already know, and keeps asking for 10 million offerings — That’s what drives the disciples away.

When you get older, it’s also okay to outgrow your home church because maybe you’re looking for something that suites you more. Now, I’m not saying that you should turn on your church home and forget where you came from. It’s important to always remember where you came from. You wouldn’t have been that person you were today w/o the help of your church home. Sometimes your church home can also turn on you and do things differently. I’ve seen churches that were out of order and I leave that in god’s hands, because I’m no one to judge that!! The purpose of having a church is for the pastor to build relationships with the disciples, and to lead the flock. You can’t lead the flock and not know what’s going on with them, or why you’re losing members.

 

When you find another church that best suites your praise and worship for God, it’s better that you do that — rather than sitting in the same old place, not feeling sincere about your worship. I will forever believe in God, but right now I’m seeking another church that has what I’ve been looking for. Things change and God won’t get mad at you for trying to find a more suitable way to worship and serve him. You want a church that works as a team with not just the fellowshiping, but the congregation feels strongly positive about where they are.

The pain of laughter

 

 

Sometimes we all have those moments where we’re laughing and crying at the same time. It’s so painful but it’s very hilarious. It’s not just the jokes that people pull, but the darnest things that other countries make up. It’s actually healthy to laugh very hard, because it gives you more years to life, and you don’t have to worry about dying early. I’m joking!

I can remember having to laugh so hard that I cried and urined on myself. Is that something I would’ve recommended to everyone? No! The fact being is that some of us can’t control the funny things that happen around the world. We’ve been through so much crying in life, why not laugh? What makes it even more funny is when it’s based on something factual, or true. At times it may seem pointless and surreal, but that’s because people make up anything that comes to mind. The worst part is when you want to go and ask, where did you get this from? People say stupid things, and it seems that’s what makes the world go ’round. Laughter is something we all have, it’s part of the package, and it feels great but hurts at the same damn time!

A Sweet Thank You <3

 

I just want to say thank you too all my fans, supporters, family, and friends. It means a lot that you thought of me!!!

The Meaning or the wedding rings?

I’ve been taking into account lately, about the arguments over love or marriage. I notice how many people say, you don’t need the rings or a signed document stating that you love your partner. Others feel that the rings and the document needs to be there, just to prove that you love the person. Personally, I think the rings and documents should be there because it has a full-on meaning. You can’t claim to love your partner without showing it through an act.

That’s like a man telling a woman he’s been with for eight years, that he’s not going to pop the question. He feels that the ring isn’t relevant and that it doesn’t say much. Well, that’s a lie because it does mean something. It’s important that whomever chooses to get married does it for the right reasons. You can’t possibly want to just marry someone for a month and just lose the ring like Kim Kardashian. That’s very childish, it comes to show not just the world but God that you could never take marriage seriously. I wouldn’t blame her for getting a divorce anyway, because she wasn’t ready at all. She’s all over the place and is now trying to get in where she fits in. That’s not cool or feminine at all!

About almost all of America gets tired of being single, or just dating. Eventually they fall under the spell of something or someone and marries the person. It’s not that someone’s money caught their love, or maybe it is. The point being is that everyone wants to marry and have kids when they’re good and ready. We don’t want to over populate, but we don’t want to under populate either. The ring signifies something crucial and important. I don’t mind sharing that with you, maybe this can help you understand why the rings and documents are so very important. There are married men that cheat, but there are also good men out there, also.

 

 

 

 

 

 

The purpose of the vows and the rings, are to bring the people together. When you join unions, you’re no longer two different people. You become one under the body of Christ, which calls for working as a team and devoting much of your time to it. The vows that says,’ until death do us part’ was meant to keep the two people together. They have to work through their problems, work through their happiness and work through their struggle together. Also, the ring is to ensure other beings amongst you that, you’re married and found what you’ve been looking for. You can’t snoop around, trying to find someone else to fonder with and you’re wearing those vows around your finger.

The meeting of a union is also, a covenant to God that MUST NOT be broken. The only way you can undo what you did, is by divorcing the person if that’s what you feel. The purpose of marriage was never intended for divorcing your spouse. It was meant to keep you both together and to work things out. Some people want their first wedding to be their last wedding, and that means no marrying other people again. You have faithful women and men, that will be willing to crusade with you and make sure that you remain under one system. You can’t operate by being dictated or controlled by someone that’s trying to give you advice, and their marriage didn’t even last.

Normally, a promise comes with marriage and that’s a kid or 6 dozen. Everyone wants children because they feel that it will bring joy and happiness to them. A baby will do those things but, they won’t fulfill that wish for all the wrong reasons. You don’t want to marry just so you can get the kid and leave your wife or vice versa. A child is meant to be born when everything around not just them, but you and your spouse is very stable. A stable environment and what gives you the most joyous feeling and experience out of just having a baby and being married. You don’t have to feel like you’re going to be tied down, because a married is not meant for “tying someone down” either. Marriage is about forming something so strong, and bonding things that no one can attempt to break. You want a foundation that will build empires and nations for decades to come, so that your children and your children’s children, can understand what it means to make a covenant to God.

Finally, when a man marries a woman, he’s expected to do things that a man does. He holds the key to not just the bank accounts or the house, he provides for his family so that they won’t ever have to go hungry in a million years from now. That’s the power of marriage when two unions are joined together to provide for their offspring, and to keep each other happy. This is why a lot of us women want to get married.