Can ‘giving’ too much, scare someone?

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Have you ever found yourself in the core of, giving back too much? Is there something wrong with that? No! You can never really give too much, there are those that will give up their homes to a homeless person. I don’t find anything wrong with that, because I’m a victim of “GoodWill”. When you’re about to help another person, without complaining and wanting something in return, your reward is much greater than you think. Some people may get freaked out, that you’re giving until you have nothing else to give. I have a good heart, so I’m always open to helping people, only because I know who I am as a person. The most appealing gift that can be wrapped in a box, is the feeling of warmth and love!! Merry Christmas!!!

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O, HOLY NIGHT

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Christmas is a very important holiday, especially for those that are Christians. This was the day that Jesus Christ was born and settled in a manger. He had been delivered to the world by his mother Mary. The Holy Spirit, had allowed Mary to conceive a baby without being touched. Her husband Joseph was frightened because, he didn’t want to shame her in front of the city. Mary was no whoremonger, she was a woman that carried herself with dignity and great faith, very obedient and special.

Jesus had been under the Will of God, to come to save the people of this world. There we were blessed with a gift! Think about it, you can’t get anyone better than Christ! This baby was to be named the KING of all KINGS, and the LORD of all LORDS!! The three kings at the time were out to kill Jesus, because they knew that Christ was there to reign forever. To make a long story short, Jesus became the hero of the people. He died on the cross for us, so that we could live again.

This man was powerful and merciful in all his ways, Healing, preaching, teaching, delivering people, and correcting those that had to be corrected. For those that have a very close relationship with Christ, you’re more than blessed. Someone like that isn’t made by accident and given to the the people out of mistake! Christ is the key to the second world, after the coming of his day! God did us all a favor out of love, and for someone that has that much love for us ignorant people, that should tell you how valued you are! I was brought with a price, and I’m happy that I gave my life to the one, who gave me life.

 

 

MERRY CHRISTMAS!!

The power of Verbal Fate

 

 

 

You can do one of two things when it comes to verbally speaking to someone. The way you talk to someone determines many things. They will either look at you in a discomforting way, or they’ll accept you for your kind words. I’m sure everyone has been in a situation, where you’ve had people talk to you both ways. You can make or break a person, but how they react determines if you’ll get the best of them.

Now, I’m not the type to allow someone to disrespect me. I’ve been told time after time, to never allow someone to come off as rude and arrogant towards me. I don’t need to be lectured on that, because I do admit to having anger problems. I can control my anger, but I’m the one that waits until you push me off the edge. Give me enough of the push and I’ll take advantage of the opportunity.

That doesn’t mean I’m bipolar, or the person next to me is. People like to mess with others for the satisfactory of their own esteem. I care about everyone, but when it comes to using words — It’s either peace or war! The best I could tell you is, don’t allow someone to bully you. When you don’t defend yourself, you give the world an opportunity to make you mentally suffer. That’s worst than a physical weapon stabbing at your organs.

verbal attack has the power to take life away from a person, only if it’s negativity. People are sensitive or may take thing to the heart. Than there are those (me) that speak life and positivity into a person’s life. I’ve been through much where I’ve been weak minded enough to allow a person to take my dreams away.

Today I changed that, because I realize that I’m only a human that deserves to live. I’ve never compromised anything of mines, to settle for the belittling of myself by another person. Make a difference by speaking positive to people, because there are people out there watching!

This is me!!

I’m not doing this for you:

My name is Kenyona Rashana Candice Parlor. I’m a christian that believes in God, and the main root of it all is Love. I’m the girl that loves herself enough to never lower her standards for someone else. I believe in myself and push myself to make the impossible happen. I love myself because, I value who I am as a person. I have respect for myself and I carry myself with grace and as a young role model to other females. I’m my own person, and I have a personality customized to my fitting. I laugh, smile, cry, hurt and I can feel. My heart is huge and I use it to the extent of it’s full potential.
I don’t carry baggage into other relationships, but I have been through a lot to never forget the things that built my muscle. I’m a positive person and I find myself supporting others w/o the favor of asking for anything from anyone. I loved hard, and I love unconditionally. There’s been many mistakes that I’ve made in the past and some that’ll be made in the future. That’s part of being human.
I know that there’s someone that I want more than ever. I’m not afraid to make mistakes in front of him, but I am scared that he won’t accept what it is that I have to offer. Love does start at home, and for the fact that not only did I receive it from both parents and my siblings, I loved and will always love me, too. Sometimes I find myself getting 5 steps ahead of my brain, but that’s normal for someone with big dreams. There are times when I need to be brought back down to earth, because some things that I may see looks fogging. Everyday I’m working at a full time job of trying to better myself. I don’t mind trying to make things right with myself on behalf of someone that I love, but most of the things I do is for me.
I admit, I’m stubborn and I don’t want to ask for help when it’s needed. I only do it because I was raised by a single mother that gave me every hope in the world. She provided every christmas, she attended every school play, she put me through school, and she gave me something that I couldn’t have experienced any better with anyone else. I thank God for her LOVE because it was well needed, but at the same time I grew up.
Everyone is taught differently how to be independent. I was specifically taught that depending on others wouldn’t get me anywhere. Calling someone for help would be a waste of time, because I had to get what I wanted through any kind of way I could. I was late for an exam? Mama stopped taking me and made me walk, I got stranded in the middle of nowhere on the bus one day, and I was told to call mama because she’d come get me. She offered her help before hand, but when I was stranded she told me to find a way home in the rain. This is why I hesitate to ask for help, because of situations such as that.
I was always compared to other people’s children. How come Jasmine was better than Kenyona or Zavion was more intelligent than me? I learned to let go and love myself, alone after while. I never mastered love because I never found my significant other. I love me till death and I’ve learned self value. Could I stop worrying for a while? Yes! Is it okay to ask for help? Yes! Have I mastered self love? Yes! Have I mastered loving someone else? No, because I haven’t found him.
I love everybody and this is a fact! Actions do speak louder than words, but sometimes words can become the loudest actions. I’ve been thrown away, cheated on, talked about, misunderstood, brought down — but I never stopped loving each and every person that hurt me. My heart is too big to be told differently, and many people that has watched me on my knees crying and praying can say that this is true. God has made me and molded me into someone beautiful. I never had that “I don’t care” attitude, because no matter what I’ll always care. It would be nice to have someone save the hero sometimes, too.
I have no excuses or anything to hide. I’m human and there’s nothing to justify the reason as to why I couldn’t do things better. I’m starting today and this time I’ll learn to ask for help from those that really are my God-given friends. I’m Kenyona and this is me!!

THE CLASSICS SUCH AS ‘ANNIE’

 

I know that everyone in the world remembers the movie ‘Annie’. I have to say that this musical was very on point and it never gets old. There was certainly a message from the movie, that was meant for the public to pick up. I guess the message being relayed is that family is very important, doesn’t matter if you’re from an orphanage. It’s important to stick together when someone is trying to do you wrong. When you have friends/family that can be happy for you, there’s a lot that can happen for the best. Annie wanted her parents so badly, before she realized that someone else wanted to love her. You never know who you need to love you the same, if not more. Life allows things to happen, so the best way to live it is just by exploring and learning new things. It doesn’t hurt to see how someone else may live, if you’re lucky — They’ll accept you!

The gift of being different and unique!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Besides the fact of having different fingerprints, I think we all are different. When I mean different, I’m not talking about swag or anything such. I’m talking about personality. One that is blessed to know that they’re different says a lot about the person. If we were all the same this world wouldn’t be boring, it’d be very unoriginal. What I like about my friends are the special features they offer to the world. One person can be outspoken, while another one just watches and observes everything around them. Another one can be in their own world, but at the same time the life of the party. The circle is small but it’s worth it. The best results sometimes is that when you limit yourself to who you hang around, things can get better than they were yesterday.

For example, I met someone this year and his name is JT (the conceited one in orange w/ fitted on). He’s amazing and I’m not saying that because I met him this year, it’s the fact of having someone that can understand you. All of my friends are different but they all have a purpose and a plan. We all want something from life but it’s either you go get it, or you just fail. The mentality we all share, it that “don’t give up” mentality. To throw in the towel like most would be something overrated. How many times can you fight for something and give up, until things don’t go your way?

Jt’s personality is custom made and made right for him. Him and I aren’t the same people but maybe there’s something we all have in common. He’s funny, smart and outgoing. Eric (The cute white boy), he’s amazing because he knows how to create something humorous in the midst of a troubling situation. He’s my little brother and I love all my friends. Sidney (the one in leather black coat) he’s hilarious but inquisitive at the same time. He likes playing music, but he works very hard at being independent for someone that’s so young. There’s a lot of features that they all have that can be mixed in with what I have.

Tasha Renee, the one kissing my cheek. She is funny, loud and very down to earth but why would I stop her from being herself. There’s always something positive about another person that can also bring out the best in you. There’s a lot she can do when she believes in herself, and I believe in her enough o make things happen. She laughs a lot and Im glad she does because she makes things possible for me. I can laugh at anything I want, just because she does it. Wrenggor, the built looking one in the black shirt, he does everything I do. He sings, worships and is always in a world of his own. I love how he’s very at ease and open to hearing the problems of his friends. He’s very selfless and that’s where him and I tie that rope. Shameeka, the one I’m kneeling next to — She’s the sweetest person I know. She can be real with you when she wants, but I’ve grown up with her so we’ve come a long way. She has so much potential, but that’s the principal of being different from one another. I say if your circle isn’t helping you achieve much from life, you need to re-evaluate who’s in it. Most of all if it’s not the circle, than maybe it’s you!!! I’VE BEEN BLESSED WITH THE BEST OF FRIENDS AND I THANK GOD ❤

 

 

 

 

 

For Without A Plan The People Perish!!

 

 

 

I was sitting in my room writing out the vision that I saw for myself. There was a lot that I wanted to make happen for me and my friends. It’s hard when you are constantly overwhelmed with work and things. That shouldn’t be an excuse as to why we can’t map out a vision and make something good happen for the future. I wanted a bookstore, adult lounge, publishing company, and magazine company all built in one component. No one said it’s going to be easy to get, but that’s why I’m working this hard now for the promise of a better tomorrow. I wish that it all came easy sometimes, but if I got it all easy why would we want what it is that we’re asking for? The purpose is to make a dream happen, without having everything handed over to you. I want to be able to tell my children that I had to work my ass off so that they could get the same things that I have. Knowing the principal of life is very crucial and I’m doing everything I can, to make life just a bit easier than it was yesterday!

IT’S ON THE PERSON THAT CARRIES THE WEIGHT OF THE PEDESTAL, RIGHT?

Have you ever felt like you’ve been placed on that pedestal? Or what about everything having to be perfect? No, wait– What happens when you fall off?

 

I know there’s a lot of questions floating around pertaining to this topic. I can relate to this in so many ways. For me it started at a young age, and when I say young — I don’t mean around the age of twelve. I remember there was so much being expected of me and I would always give people what they wanted. I stopped caring about myself years ago, but as I got older things began to change and cards were beginning to turn.

Sometimes I find it hard to understand, how is it that people look up to me and don’t expect me to make a mistake? I mean, everyone is standing so close to the pedestal looking at every move you make. It’s agonizing and it’s annoying because, they don’t let you breathe. The first move you want to make –you’re not really sure that you want to make that move. The moment of placement, is like all privileges and opportunities have been stripped of you.

The family looks at you as the girl/boy that’s going on an adventure of success. Yes, maybe I’d expect that from myself to but how can we learn if the mistakes aren’t as surplus as the clean slate? We aren’t perfect but we try to fix ourselves up for the satisfactory of other people’s inventory for their needs. That’s actually no way to live, especially because we’re living the dream of someone else and not ourselves.

I thought it was okay to be human and to just bask in my own mistakes. The fact that the pedestal is clean and all shiny, means that your preferences had to match up with it. I think not! I’m placed on a pedestal because I think, act, live and see things differently. Everyone is different but yet only few will stand out, it’s like you trying to be like everybody else in town.

 

 

 

I was made to stick out and I embraced that. Now what happens if you become overly confident in yourself? You can become too confident that you disappoint yourself and  others around you. No one is telling you to have a low self esteem, they’re just saying that you need to pick it up –where it falls at. The weight of the world is on your shoulders, but who’s fault is that? To be honest it’s yours! Why? Think about it for a second …

We want to help everyone out so bad, and we see many people suffering so we want to indulge in their cup; instead of our own. That’s what we get, because as we become older we learn that our own problems were strictly built and designed for us. Things are freshly custom made and no one can fit into your problem the way you can. The best advice is to stop trying to live an error-free life and just make mistakes already. The more mistakes we make, the better –only because we now know which ways we shouldn’t go.

The Contest and the rules!!!

The rules strictly applies to everyone that is contemplating/ joined the competition. You must play fair and don’t cheat, it’s not like you could anyway. The deadline for the contest is Nov. 27th 2012. You must enter your entries/submissions on the contest page. No one can tell you what to write about, but it has to be something interesting. There should be a sample of a short story or novella that you’re in the process of working on. I guarantee that this will be fun, because I’ve done something such as this before, and everyone had a blast.

However you choose to enter it on the ‘CONTEST’ page, is your business. It has to be visible to me so that I can see it, and the choice of format is yours. Please do NOT write in penmanship, because that’s doing too much. It has to be your own version of “LE PROMESSE” and however you want to create it. I will post a short example of mines up on the site so that you can have some insight as to what’s going on. There will only be one winner, and the first place winner gets a signed copy of my book SWORD OF LOVE: A PARISIAN LOVE (BOOK1) and a T-shirt, cd and bookmark. I’m contemplating on putting some cash in the prize/stash.

 

 

 

Below I have an example of my own LE PROMESSE (The promise). Don’t copy nor take any of the characters or anything that  has its’ content. The book is currently being worked on now, and has been copyrighted for future references.

 

EXAMPLE:

 

Chapter One

       I know not a lot of people my age tend to do the things I do. This is a big world and sometimes, we get lost in it. I found my purpose when I was awakened by the phases of life. I’m a person of love, but I have to compare myself to a butterfly. Like something so small, I go through many different stages before I become mature.

There’s this room that I’m writing from. It represents something about myself, and I hope that the world can see the same exact things that I do. Sometimes I feel like we need to be alone with ourselves, to get the full understanding of what we want out of life.

As I lie down on this queen-sized bed, I’m writing a story without paper and pen. I thought that maybe if I went away to a far away angelic place to write this, than everyone would have a better understanding of who I am, as a person. I chose to lay my body to rest, in this all white beachfront house that stands facing the water.

There’s a pure white queen-sized bed and a white and silver lamp mounted to the wall. Everything is white except for the green plant that sits vertical of the bed, in a tall white vase. There’s a green, gray and white throw rug on top of the white carpet. A navy green and black granite table is placed against the wall, across from the bed. There’s this white chair placed in front of the table with golden emblazon on its sides.

This is Kenyona R.C. Parlor, not the physical being speaking to the world; but the spiritual being. People often mistake me for the physical things they see, but that has to be corrected. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with laying down my fleshy display. There’s a purpose and a reason for everything that is performed. Why can’t we just accept people as they really are? You’re physicality is what allows you to do certain things that your spirituality, doesn’t allow. Most of the times we want to see what we can feel, instead of feeling what it is that we cannot see.

This human race is complex to the point of malfunctions, especially when it comes to trying to fathom. We confuse our thoughts with our feelings, and our feelings with our thoughts. My point is that we’re backwards and don’t know how to move forward. We make things complicated but yet we all request for the best.

There’s a promise to someone out there, for someone that can love me without going for the physical things. I know it’s a challenge to all mankind when you have to define the inner side of a person, but things will work out for the best. It’s like going on a crusade to make it to the promise land, without any marks or blemishes.

I don’t have to ask what love is, because I know what it defines. I don’t confuse lust and love with one another. There’s a sacred part of me that is promised to a prince of a far away place. I’m not fearful of who the person is, but if he’s able to take on few challenges. A man goes through things, but he should never run when a challenge calls him out.

There’s something so beautiful around me, but why would I destroy it? I’m looking beyond my what my eyes are showing me. My heart has a mind and eyes of its own; I’m following the path of justification for what’s right. I need someone that has their own and knows how to grow up when it’s time to do so. I would never disappoint myself, settling for a business talk isn’t what I’m searching for. I’d prefer to cut right to the chase and get on with my life, family, and this promise!

 

CHAPTER TWO ….

CHAPTER THREE ….

 

 

****Make sure you make the story your own, and keep the readers interested! May the best submission win!! ********

CHURCH AT HOME OR IN THE SANCTUARY?

 

 

I hear a lot of people saying that church is in their hearts. Some say that, you can’t stay home to worship because that’s what the sanctuary was built for. God would prefer if we worship in His temple. But what about the people that are sick and shut in? I’m sure that God would accept there worship, anyway too. This fuss has been going on for centuries, and we need to find the resolution. I’ve been in the situation where, I went to church and worshiped in the sanctuary with the congregation. The experience is very hands on but there’s also some factors that keep people from walking through those church doors.

 

I’ve heard many people say that the pastor may ask for too many offerings. They felt that the only offering that should be asked for is the “Tithe and offering” because that’s what we owe to God. I know I looked for a new church in Florida, because my church would do the same. It was all a matter of me outgrowing where I didn’t want to be anymore. The people I grew up with in the church were either, knocked up or went to being in a gang. Do I agree with it? NO! But things happen and there will be cost for it.

 

A few others say that, when you sit at home and watch church on television; it’s better. You still have to find a way to pay tithes and offering but you also don’t get that “hands on” experience. I would know this because, I’ve done it before and it was very challenging. I’m not saying it’s okay to not go to church or to worship from the comfort of your home. Make sure that however you worship, it’s sincere and meant for God and GOD ONLY!